I write about divorce in India

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  1. Family is connected by blood and heart. Location? A bonus.

    • Kalpanaa says:

      Location is a bonus when it comes to family with grown up children. Connected by blood and heart – I like that. Thank you Elephant’s Child.

  2. I love the meaning behind “We are Family”. It’s easy to say, not so easy to act on. I’m happy my children often have fond memories of events I struggled to bring about. They never knew.

  3. shalzmojo says:

    I am personally not a great fan of whats app groups as there is an overload of messages on it of every variety.

    But yes it helps to really stay close.and in touch.

    Flower power

    • Kalpanaa says:

      I can’t stand WhatsApp groups. That’s why ours is carefully moderated for carelessness in not replying to what someone has said, jumping in with your own story. Forwards with brightly coloured flowers are booed at. Cheesy ready made motivational quotes aren’t allowed. These are really things that touch our lives. It helps that there are only five people on the group, everyone is open to feedback and we are all considerate of how much we are throwing at the group. If someone writes something about their day while I’m asleep I read what’s been written, reply and then step in with what I want to say.

  4. Shailaja V says:

    Nothing quite like family to see you through the worst of times and cheer you on in the best of times. Family for me also means my village online, the family I’ve made through my words and blogging. Divorce can be brutal on the kids but to watch them manage so admirably in the face of an empty nest or a broken home is a testatment to you, the parent, Kalpanaa.

  5. Denise Covey says:

    Family is all important to most of us, but divorce, even of the most amiable, fractures the family unit in some degree. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

    • Kalpanaa says:

      Divorce does fracture the family unit for a little while but it’s possible to rally back strengthened by your experience.

  6. leannelc says:

    This reminded me of my “E” for Empty Nest post – family is still family even if they don’t all live together any more. We have both our adult children and their spouses and our lovely granddaughter coming home for a few days over the Easter holiday and I am beyond excited! We adjust as our children leave and make the best of it, but it’s also lovely when they come back for a visit isn’t it?
    Leanne | cresting the hill

    • Kalpanaa says:

      Awww Leanne – I hope you have a wonderful Easter. It’s true, we adjust as our children leave and the high points are when they come visiting. I too may have my eldest daughter over for Easter, depending on her work. Fingers crossed 🙂
      And me Empty Nest will be full of Easter Eggs next week. I invited the one daughter who lives in this town to come over to paint eggs – I’m hoping that happens.

  7. I lived in rural France for a few years and there it is still usual for several generations of the family to sit around the table together to eat, chat and laugh every evening. I felt quite envious.

    The Fish Inn, Amble Bay

    • Kalpanaa says:

      Thats such a lovely thing to do and I believe it lengthens lives. I do wish all of us lived within a stone’s throw of each other but we don’t so we have to choose the best alternative of chatting and laughing.

  8. ANITA says:

    They say- It’s better if a family eats together.
    But, these days, members are busy in their own world.
    Gadgets occupy space. Family-time gets affected.
    Love binds everyone. Even if the members are in different homes/places.
    WhatsApp group coversations 🙂 🙂

    • Kalpanaa says:

      Its upto the family moderators to make sure people eat together and one can make a no gadget rule. We never had the TV on while eating and phones weren’t allowed on the table.

  9. Lalita says:

    Yes, our families are losing all borders are nt they? It is not always this ordained structure that we must confirm to, per the family laws. Now more so than ever, we form our own little family rituals, our portkeys of connection and the people we share all our sadness and silliness with. Thanks for reiterating that.

  10. Nilanjana Bose says:

    Blood is always thicker than water. Family ties remain the same, the outward format changes with time and generations.


    • Kalpanaa says:

      Its so true that blood is thicker than water. I didn’t much care for that saying when I was young and my parents said it to get me to spend more time with them. But it was only while I was a teenager and mad about dancing.

  11. I have to agree… the concept of a ‘close’ family has changed. It need not be the ones who stay under the same roof at all. It can be people a thousand miles away too, as long as they care to make the effort.

  12. dew cool says:

    Indeed definition of family transform over times, but still people live who give effort to make a good relation
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  13. Well said. The only family under my roof is my wife. But that means getting together with other family is that much more special.

    • Kalpanaa says:

      that’s exactly my point Alex. Once your children are grown up and gone to different corners of the world, getting together is very special and technology can keep you connected in between. I never diss the internet. It has its uses.

  14. SoulMom says:

    Similar questions I ask myself. My teens being with me is a comforting factor, yet sometimes the closest relationships under one roof are stressful. I dread to think of being in an empty nest. How lovely to know that your kids prefer family gatherings. Speaks of healthy parenting.

  15. Family is what you make it…I agree with all you’ve said and sometimes, it’s great when you can have a ritual/occasion than having to just live under the same roof.

    Fable – One good turn

  16. “A family is still a family, even if they don’t live under the same roof in the same city or even in the same country.” Absolutely. I live in Sweden, but all my siblings, parents, cousins, live in the States. And even within the USA, the family lives in different cities/states. We keep pretty good contact through Facebook, and the occasional family gathering. Love the picture with all your dogs! That must be madness!

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