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  1. Fascinating topic. The brilliant thing about AtoZ is the worldwide nature of posts and meeting bloggers you might not meet otherwise. Thanks for popping by and I’ll see you again.

    • Kalpanaa says:

      Thanks for returning the visit lynne! I think that’s what I love about the A to Z. Certainly not the pressure of writing to an alphabet daily 😀

  2. Geraint says:

    I have many friends in the western world (we’ll call it that) who cannot handle a strong, smart, passionate woman. They want one, they say, but then try to take that away. So it’s not a cultural thing entirely. Our individuality should make us stronger as a unit. Well, that’s just my 2 cents. But what do I know?

  3. The western world doesn’t value individuality either. Women (in particular) are supposed to look the same way, and behave the same way. Most of us work, but we are also expected to be supreme mothers, cooks, interior decorators, beautiful (and beautifully dressed and presented, thin, hostesses and provide care for our partners.
    I am however glad to hear that things are changing (albeit slowly) in India. Perhaps western cultures can follow suit.

    • Kalpanaa says:

      Well things are changing very slowly in India. We’re still trying to be perfect at everything – our work, running our homes and of course, looking fabulous and having model kids. Its crazy.

  4. Yes Kalpana, times are changing now. And women are also recognising their individuality.

  5. “Its the ‘selfish’ women who can’t put their children and their families first but think about their careers or their artistic fulfilment.” These ‘modern’ women with education and the capacity to work good jobs then sit around biting their nails hoping their in-laws will ‘allow’ them to go out to work. ” could so relate to your brilliantly written article !

    • Kalpanaa says:

      🙂 Well, they have a lot to lose if they defy their in laws and because of the way they’re brought up they don’t always find the courage to do so.

  6. Sayanti Deb says:

    I also think that every woman should hold their individuality by doing the things that express herself best. There are many women in India, who don’t have a chance to pursue job after bringing​ up child and family. They should make time to pursue their hobby or the work that they love most.
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  7. Every woman should have the right to be herself, whether married or not. At the same time, she and her husband must become a team to ensure the family do not suffer. Build A Better Blog: I is for Interesting Images. #AtoZchallenge.

    • Kalpanaa says:

      I like the idea of the husband and wife being a team to ensure the family has a good time. It shouldn’t rest on only one set of shoulders. Thanks for visiting.

  8. Tarkabarka says:

    That mentality exists in Hungary too. People will rail in the media about how working women are ‘ruining the country’ and we will all die alone and unhappy because we are not willing to marry and stay at home. 😀

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  9. It is important to move on from the 80’s social narrative of movies and make the scripts relevant to the present day. More so, in an atmosphere that seems to want to stifle the very sense of individuality that makes us unique, demanding we stick to rigid conforms.

  10. It is so interesting reading about the different cultures of those partaking in the challenge. I am a frequent visitor to India from the UK and often wonder which of us has got it right!

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    • Kalpanaa says:

      I love to hear about the different cultures. As to who has got it right – I don’t know – it’s about being free, isn’t it?

  11. shalzmojo says:

    I wasnt very happy with this film as it was so long stretched out and vague at odd ends too. True the subject was a woman wanting her financial independence and in that regard maybe it was good!
    I am someone who fiercly guards her financial independence and wouldnt give it up to pander to anyone!!
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    • Kalpanaa says:

      Yes it had all the drawbacks of a Hindi film – too long, vague, songs where women wear tiny items of clothing. My praise for the film was about the topic it chose.

  12. I had a post planned on these lines about individuality and identity – how most women are simply expected to give up theirs. As though their life isn’t theirs to lead, but to “offer in service” to others. That thought process just *has* to change.

  13. Rajlakshmi says:

    I loved the movie. Even though it had it’s own bollywood masala, the message was present. I see a lot of difference now, specially in cities where it is difficult to live on single income. But overall the society is still the same. The villages or countryside need a revolution where women are confined to only certain roles.

  14. Ravish Mani says:

    Kalpanaa, it’s difficult for me to put my view effectively on the subject in a comment section. It’ll require a whole post, as Individuality is a paradoxical term. It becomes more complex when dealt with gender issues. I’ll try to do a post on it next month. 🙂

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