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Justify your actions

Justify

Can I justify my divorce and do I need to? I was certainly expected to by many who had no business asking for justification. Friends who didn’t want to understand and acquaintances from a...

Individuality expressed as a tattoo

Individuality

There’s a very strange reaction to the idea of individuality in India, specially for a woman. She isn’t really expected to have any, in fact it’s better if she fits in quietly. Individuality is...

Hindsight

Hindsight

HINDSIGHT IS WONDERFUL. IT’S ALWAYS EASY TO SECOND GUESS AFTER THE EVENT Hindsight is so beneficial. So much is revealed to us after the event, specially in relationships if we do the work of...

Gauging the distance

Gauging

Gauging the distance She ventures to bridge it Shock of cold water Haiku 2 Grape juice in a trance Two glasses transparent red Now shattered Haiku 3 Garbled sentences Mixed up communication Warmth forgotten...

Family

‘Is it still a family if everybody doesn’t live under the same roof?’ is a question I asked myself in the early days of the divorce. Dogs, a cat, some cows and the children...

Sea at ebb - exhaustion

Exhaustion

EXHAUSTION Ebb of a marriage, receding to Exhaustion Exultation gave way to despair Efforts so tiring Exhaustion from keeping the Embers of love smouldering Exhaustion Embraces forgotten Exhaustion as we got lost in Exactitude...

Despair and a bleak black and white mountain

Despair

Despair is the landscape of divorce. In fact writing all these posts about divorce has sent me into a depressed space as I relive the uncertainties – my own during my divorce and those...

Confusion

From clarity to confusion I started writing a post about clarity despite comments from divorced friends who laughingly remarked, ‘Because you have such clarity when it comes to divorce!’ The more I attempt to...

Blame - an abstract picture of it

Blame

Whom can we blame in a divorce? It must be the fault of the other person for fracturing your fairy tale dream of a life lived together, of growing silver haired together. You’ve missed...

Anger - Lexicon of Leaving

Anger #AtoZchallenge

Anger in the lexicon of leaving is hardly surprising and I begin my #atozchallenge with A for Anger. Anger isn’t an emotion we’re unfamiliar with. What’s your anger like? A blowtorch that bursts out...

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