Venting

Kalpanaa

I write about divorce in India

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16 Responses

  1. Things kept in the dark have a nasty habit of festering and growing. Hard to find a balance though. And yes, writing is often good.

  2. Andy says:

    I don’t know that writing things down is ALWAYS better than talking them through. I love writing things out now and do well with that method, but there was a time when I didn’t write well and the very idea of trying to put my thoughts to paper was enough to send me into a tailspin. That said, I agree that writing is wonderfully therapeutic and is a fabulous coping strategy. Certainly it is a better way of processing your thoughts than spewing venom all over the first person you happen to see when you’re upset.

    • Kalpanaa says:

      Of course there is no ‘always’ and people have to figure out what works for them. Journaling doesn’t require your writings to be masterpieces, just helps with the thought process. Also research shows that venting can increase your unhappiness – well that’s what pyschologists say – do click the link – but I think there must be some truth to it because I found it did become a habit and didn’t move me forward. Having said which, we all need to get things off our chests and chat with daughters, mothers, sisters, friends about the annoying people in our lives.

  3. Geraint Isitt says:

    I do love a good vent

  4. shalzmojo says:

    Oh yes the venting bit happened with me, but very late. Inititally I just shut up and kept quite making everyone around me wonder why I am getting a divorce. I was just too tired and mind made up dead set to have dialogues with ppl over it.’Venting helps and I think you found the best way to go about it by writing it all down. More power to your pen!! Cheers

    ​Vanillabeans & Peppercorns

    • Kalpanaa says:

      That sounds tough – just shutting down. Although we know instinctively how to protect ourselves and what’s best. I didn’t only write things down – I talked a lot – not to my daughters of course – but I had friends who listened. Such sweethearts.

  5. pempispalace says:

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  6. Nilanjana Bose says:

    Writing is always good therapy.

    Nilanjana
    Madly-in-Verse

  7. I’m hot and cold on venting. Mostly, I don’t. To anyone because it’s driven by emotion not reality. Sometimes though, I can’t stop it.

  8. If I’m mad, it’s much better if I vent alone. No one wants to hear my foul tongue.

    V is for Vaxxed, the movie

  9. Mrs.Dash says:

    Perfect take for V.
    Loved it

    #apom A Peice of my life
    W for Wine 

  10. Ravish Mani says:

    Your post reminds me of Mark Twain who lost his temper occasionally and wrote letters that turned the Paper brown. The writing of these stinging letters made Mark Twain feel better. They allowed him to blow off steam, and the letters didn’t do any real harm, because Mark’s wife secretly lifted them out of the mail. They were never sent.

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