Yoga and divorce
Yoga and divorce
Yoga has been my thing ever since at the age of 20 years I bought Richard Hittleman’s 28 Days of Yoga and began to teach myself yoga. Despite the fact that I live in India, the source of yoga I felt better guiding myself through the asanas than getting a yoga teacher who would take me away from my Hatha yoga practice and demand I chant mantras and practice breathing. That was my 20 year old self’s impatience with the spiritual aspect of yoga. Luckily meditation held some fascination for me and through that and wanting to get better at it I was happy to practice the breathing or Pranayama.
I sometimes chant Om to help me with my breath but any long complicated terribly HIndu religious mantra turns me off. I prefer a more universal approach to spirituality.
I eventually went for the Shivananda Ashram’s yoga course and delighted in the 90 minute class with other yogis, watching with fascination as they rose magically into the head stand – Sirshasana – or did a Vrischikasana where they truly looked like scorpions about to strike making me dissatisfied with being able to raise my legs a mere three inches off the floor. You learn not to compare yourself to others but to measure only your own progress from one day to the next. Such a healthy attitude to competition.
Teacher training was next on my agenda but I never could take an entire month off to hone my skills in the hills beneath the Himalayas. I had a family, a sick parent, a part time job, a pack of dogs and an organic vegetable garden to take care of. So yoga teacher training was done at the Srima Yoga Centre in Delhi on a daily basis. I regret not giving myself the time to immerse myself in yoga completely, instead of trying to fit it in between my job timings.
During my A to Z Challenge reading I’ve enjoyed reading Rajyalakshmi’s yoga posts at Pixelatedtales
Yoga and divorce – what’s the link?
So what does yoga have to do with divorce? Well it is a spiritual practice, the asanas are done to enable us to open our chakras(energy centres) and through fully functioning chakras to be able to address those issues in our life that are out of balance whether it’s money (too much or too little), sex (the same), communication, compassion, digestion, spirituality. We need balance in our lives in all areas and yoga helps us achieve these and change things in our lives if we don’t have that balance. Sometimes our relationships don’t take us further in our spiritual growth, or the expansion of our personalities. That may lead to divorce.
“ Women are not happy with the status quo, we need to be mothers and wives and career women, yes, but we also need to express our individuality as strong, powerful women.
To express our heart’s desire and follow our passions.
To be loved fully and irreverently.
To open our hearts to the possibilities of our lives
To live without fear of the unknown
And if the situation calls for it, to end our marriage and move on” says Chrys Kub at Elephant Journal
Does this scare you away from yoga? Do you think your marriage may not survive it? That’s unlikely if its a good marriage so go right ahead if you are so inclined. If you’re undergoing a divorce, there’s nothing like yoga to keep you balanced, calm and on the spiritual path. The side effects of a beautiful, flexible, pain free body aren’t bad either.
I just love yoga and can’t imagine a life without it. I begin my day with surya namaskars, am mindful of the prana (life) in the food I’m eating ( Maggi noodles have so little prana) and try to interact with people in as respectful a way as possible. I’m not always successful – but then I know I’m a work in progress and don’t expect perfection from myself.